I'm Better than YOU!

Yup, I said it!!! I’m better than YOU! I look better than YOU! I dress better than YOU! I love better than YOU! I worship better than YOU! I am a better friend to my friends that YOU will ever be! I am a better family member than YOU have ever been. I am just flat out BETTER THAN YOU!!!!

Have you ever had to tell the YOU, you used to be this? The YOU that never thought that she could do anything right. The YOU that would allow life to just go on. The YOU that thought she wasn’t worth anything. The YOU that thought her life’s problems defined who she was. I am talking to the YOU that I used to be.

Every now and again you have to tell YOU to go back to the past where she belongs because there’s no room for her hurt, pain, bitterness, anger, resentment, doubt, fear, worry to reside in your present or future. “Well Tamika, I still struggle with some of those traits?” So do I. However, how YOU dealt with them in the past versus how you deal with them now makes the difference. We’re all going to have those moments where we fall short or struggle because that’s just the way life goes, but how we handle those struggles are not going to be the same as the way we used to do it in the past because you are in a different place in your life.

Some of you have worked extremely hard getting to the place you are in now and, for a lot of us, that place is called a place of PEACE! I don’t know about you, but I love it here. And here’s the thing, most of my struggles were not external (meaning from outside people or circumstances), but internal—the things that I struggled with daily. Now, there have been some external factors that have caused a lot of internal struggles, like not knowing or being taught how to handle situations in my life such as relationships of any kind. For example, growing up I was never taught how to have a proper or healthy relationship with people, whether it be female friends, guy friends, boyfriends, church friends, etc. I was just told what type of people to stay away from, but not specifically why I should stay away from them. This is not a jab at my parents parenting skills because they taught me what they knew, and their parents/guardians taught them what they knew and so on and so forth. And because I never received an explanation as to why a particular type of person was not good for me, I entered into a lot of different relationships with people not knowing what to expect and how to maneuver my emotions with these people. I didn’t know when to say “yes” or “no” to something, what red flags or signs to look for or how to properly handle getting my heartbroken. But I can honestly say that now as an adult, because I have done the work on myself, I:

~ Know Whose I am

~ Know who I am

~ Know what I’m worth

~ Know what’s acceptable and not acceptable for me

~ Know when to hold on to people and when to let them go

~ Know how to control my emotions

~ Know that God’s word affirms me

And so much more!

So, I encourage you to be better than the YOU, you used to be because you worked hard for it!

Love Always,

Tamika